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When you log into the account of a beautiful girl in VKontakte, you have several touch channels through which you can attract her attention. This could be: personal messages, comments on her photos and videos, as well as a wall. What to write on a girl's wall? You've probably asked yourself this.

I can assume that you have already used the wall at least once to attract her attention.

Perhaps you never managed to have sex with her. If this is the case, then the reason most likely lies in the wrong approach. Therefore, I will now tell you what to write to a girl on the wall in contact.

But first, let's talk about...

What to text a girl you like to make her melt?

Many young people are faced with the question: what phrases to say and what words to write to the girl you like so that she melts? Far from her, everyone can immediately pick up the right compliments and pleasant phrases that will help touch her heart and make a favorable impression. Therefore, let's look at a few examples, preparations and secrets of what to write to the girl you like. This will help diversify your vocabulary, tell the girl in a non-trivial way about your attitude towards her and force her to pay especially close attention. Examples:

  • “You are the most beautiful at this party!”
  • “I can’t take my eyes off you when your eyes shine with happiness.”
  • “I always love you: when you are happy, and when you make fun of me, and when you are a little tired, and even when you swear: at such moments you shine, and I want to admire you endlessly!”

Are you starting to notice that the girl is interested? But what should you write to a girl so that she will completely melt and remember your words? You can write the following messages:

  • “You are very unusual - I don’t know what to expect from you. We are always interested in each other!”
  • “If I’m sure that you’re my girlfriend, then I’m ready to do anything for you!”
  • “I know that next to you, I will succeed in everything!”

What is a post in contact?

I have already told you about how to create a community in VKontakte and formalize it. However, no matter how much I would like it, even a perfectly designed group will not become popular if you do not care about quality content and post second-rate news in it. Those who are involved in the promotion and promotion of businesses on the Internet know that high-quality, and, most importantly, correctly designed posts can become first-class advertising. However, before we proceed to the actual creation of advertising, I suggest spending a couple of minutes on the theory. First of all, we need to find out what a VK post is?

By post we will call messages that are posted on the walls of VKontakte user accounts, published in groups and communities. It is with the help of posts that we can share interesting news and all kinds of information with each other. All those posts that you post on the wall of your page, repost from other groups and publics, can be viewed by all guests who are on your page. In addition, all posts are displayed in the news feed of your friends and subscribers.

Despite the fact that today there are a great many different types of posts, I would like to draw your attention to two main ones that we see almost everywhere:

  • advertising – in which they offer you some products or simply promote their business

  • infotainment - as a rule, contains some neutral information such as jokes, facts, pictures that will be of interest to the target audience of the public page or community in which it is posted

Looking ahead a little, I will say that messages of the second type are more readily liked and reposted.

However, advertising messages can also be made popular. To do this, you need to follow the basic rules for composing and formatting posts, which we will talk about now.

What can you write after a banal hello?

Many guys in love find it difficult to decide even to say a simple “hello, how are you” or they rack their brains about what to write to a girl instead of “hello”. But those brave souls who finally decided to take the first step face another question: writing “hello” is not so difficult, but what to do after a mutual greeting?

You should remember the basic rule: the first phrase should interest you so much that you want to answer it.

It must be taken into account that it is important not to scare the girl away. It is especially important to be able to maintain a conversation. Here you need to provide as much information as possible so that it is interesting to the interlocutor. At the same time, it is important that the girl talks a little about herself. You should remember that you must be interested in the person you are talking to.

To understand what a lady likes, you need to study her profile on social networks. After the work done, you can find out a lot of information about the girl. For example, you should ask about her studies, her future specialty, and why this particular department. If she is still a schoolgirl, you can ask about her favorite subjects: a great topic that allows you to find out her thoughts about her future life, profession, interests.

Template phrases that you can write to get to know her better:

  • “Which institute are you studying at? Looking at your photographs, it is clear that you live a rich life.”
  • “What is your favorite subject, and what do you just can’t stand? What do you like most about school? (In this situation, the conversation may turn to the topic of dislike.)
  • "Where do you work? How long? Why in this place? Do you like your job? Do you like what your job gives you?”

We must not forget that sentences and phrases can be changed depending on the communication style of the fairer sex.

What you definitely shouldn’t write

Prohibited ways to attract a girl’s attention include various types of postcards and congratulations. Believe me, you are not the first who tries to attract her attention in this way.

Moreover, VKontakte is not the only place that shows the ineffectiveness of this approach. If you pay attention to how guys try to attract the attention of beauties in real life, you can notice the similarities with virtual communication.

They also “seduce” their girlfriends (both new and old) with the help of gifts and congratulations.

They fail to do this for two reasons:

  1. They are no different from others.
  2. Although they may distinguish themselves, their approach will not be original. They are more likely to show neediness than to interest her.

As you already guessed, in order to seduce a girl or at least attract her attention, you need to be different from the majority. Moreover, both in real life and in contact.

Phrases in the style of “You are beautiful!” and other compliments do not contribute to the generation of interest. On the contrary, they lower your level in the eyes of both the girl and her many friends. They don't give emotions. None!

How to greet a girl in VK in an original way: original greetings?

Today the social network Vkontakte is one of the most popular. It's a rare girl who isn't registered there. In this regard, online dating is becoming very popular. After all, both men and women feel more confident and calm on the other side of the computer - finding a soul mate online is much easier.

How to start a conversation on VK in order to greatly interest the girl you like? Before you write any message, first send her a friend request. If she answers positively, you are halfway to success. To consolidate the pleasant effect, you can evaluate her notes on the wall and photographs. This will draw attention to you and your page and pre-position it towards your personality.

A few original greetings that you can take note of.

  • “Hello, I have a feeling as if you and I have already crossed paths somewhere, have you by chance been to any party recently?” Here the girl will have a lot of memories running through her head, and by guessing where you could meet, you can find out about her favorite places and hobbies.
  • Another unusual option is to write any confusion and wait for the interlocutor’s reaction. After some time, you need to apologize and explain the situation by saying that your account was hacked, and that more than anything else you wanted to offend her in some way.
  • On VKontakte there is such an opportunity - to send gifts. Use this feature and give your beauty a cute picture with compliments. This beautiful act will make you spend a little of your savings, but will make a good impression on your chosen one!
  • And, of course, one way is to portray an inveterate romantic. Tell her about any fateful signs that led you to her. For example, a prophetic dream or some kind of inner feeling that arose when seeing her photo.

This is what a guy who doesn't know what to text his girlfriend might look like.

An ideal post on VKontakte that won’t be scrolled through!

When I started doing SMM, it was an intuitive wandering in the dark. I stumbled over surveys and pictures, pulled out either fictional stories or advertising posts with a direct offer. I got acquainted with the content of other groups, read the manuals, and poured more and more information into the chaos of SMM knowledge. Until the first experience came, illuminating the disassembled mosaic of the future skill with a dim light bulb.

It wasn’t immediately possible to connect my posts with reader recognition. The path was long. Over time, a set of rules was formed in my head on how to write in a way that would be interesting, involve and leave the reader with the text until the end. And now I share it with you.

6 character traits of an ideal post

1. He understands . An ideal post targets the target audience and causes a deja vu effect. It's like meeting an old friend who tells a new story in a way you've heard many times before. He speaks the language of those to whom the message is addressed, it contains slang and introductory words like: in general, it would seem, etc.

The ideal post is seen by your target audience, i.e. he walks where he is needed. In groups with similar topics, in which there are those who will be interested in your proposal. Typically, untargeted advertising is annoying and has little effect.

2. He is emotional. Its content excites the target audience. Find a value and build your text around it. Values ​​are health, money, love, family, etc. Back up the value with emotion. Operate with fear, tell the person what could happen if he does not take your advice or suggestion. Intrigue, tell a little something personal about yourself that will interest the reader:

When I started studying marketing, strange things happened to me. As soon as I started reading a book or an article, I immediately received a lot of calls and messages. I had to distract myself and do other things...

Cause envy:

Why does your friend constantly change girls, and you are alone?

3. He disposes. The ideal post has a plot, is lively and energetic. It's inspiration. And also humor. If the post makes you smile, it means it will be remembered, and the reader will form a pleasant association with your group.

Write a story from your life, about your hobbies, observations of other people, how you are “bombed” by other people’s limitations, about defeats, how you dealt with them, about the difficulties you encountered, about meetings with clients, etc. .

The reader will be interested if you use comparisons (with cooking, with sex, with nature):

The event serves up a pie of impressions, in which the delight of the performances of famous actors is mixed with the benefits of meeting potential business partners.

Animate the object of the description and speak on its behalf. Fantasize. Don't be afraid to experiment.

If you take on a story, let it not be a stylized fairy tale of a “perfect” person, tell people about your mistake, about the problem that you were able to solve, and tie the meaning to what is happening in the post:

I sat in a cafe and thought about how I used to make people wait, deliberately neglecting punctuality. Before I arrived at the meeting, the person had time to drink at least two mugs of coffee. Everything went on like this until...

4. He argues.

Build your argument according to the following scheme: thesis-argument-support, where:

  • A thesis is a statement that needs to be proven.

An online store is an easy way to open your own business.

  • An argument is a argument in favor of a thesis.

Online business requires minimal investment.

  • Support is a theoretical explanation of an argument that gives it credibility. Support is based on knowledge. It must be clear and understandable.

to open an online store, it is enough to order a copy of a one-page website for 5,000 rubles, and spend only 10,000 rubles on purchasing goods.

Add an example - a fact from life that confirms the truth of the argument:

Today in Russia there are more than 40 thousand online stores, of which 35,400 are micro-stores, and the number is growing steadily, which means that you can right now.

Or a picture:

When the online store was launched, I couldn’t leave my computer because questions about the product kept coming in all the time. Just as I was getting up to pour myself some coffee, I heard the sound of an incoming message. There’s a clang, and I slap my slippers back on the parquet and sit on the chair again.

5. It holds attention . To prevent the reader from falling asleep, the post contains sentences of varying lengths. First a short one. Then a little more authentic. And one more sentence is longer than the rest. And again short. But you shouldn’t use very complex sentences in posts for VKontakte; it’s better to break them down into several sentences. Where you can put a period instead of a comma, feel free to do so.

The post addresses the reader personally. Have you noticed that it’s more pleasant to read posts where trust shines through, where the conversation takes place as if one-on-one? He mentions his reader (car enthusiast, mom, writer, gamer).

6. He is original . In addition to interesting text, the ideal post contains an enticing headline and, of course, an original image. Say no to stolen content. If you have your own logo, use it. Hire someone who will come up with jokes and draw simple pictures for your posts.

Once the perfect post is created, you can ask the reader to do what you want. Subscribe, write a comment or something else. If the post is written for reposting, be sure to add a plus sign or some kind of bonus. Show the benefits, why the person should repost - promise a gift or send useful material in a personal message, organize a raffle.

Naturally, the content of the post should be unique and useful for the reader. There is no need to rewrite ready-made content; 80% of the Internet environment is filled with this kind of publications. Read, understand the issue, collect information, and then arm yourself with your imagination and sit down to write. And you will definitely succeed!

Author: Ekaterina Slovo. For DLUX SMM

What to write to a girl so that she responds to the message?

When you meet a beautiful girl, you always rack your brain about what impression you left and how to remind her of your existence. Perhaps one of the best options is to send a message or SMS that she would respond to and be interested in.

The first message to a girl after meeting her should be unobtrusive and light: they do not need to show excessive interest and neediness. Such qualities especially repel a man and only irritate girls, so such a mistake should not be made in the first message. First, of course, you need to greet her, and then you can express your emotions.

Example message: “Hello again. I was very pleased to meet you and chat. I didn’t want to say, but there was something on your cheek.” This method is unusual, original, and it will definitely interest her and she will want to ask what was there after all. You don’t need to answer right away, wait about thirty to forty minutes, and then you can answer her that it was a dimple. This will be a very sweet display and will leave a beautiful impression.

How to write to a girl in an original way that she is beautiful?

One of the best ways to write to a girl to make her feel good is to give her compliments. This skill alone, of course, will not be enough, but spoken pleasant words will certainly inspire trust.

If you want to compliment a stranger on how beautiful she is, then it’s better to write something short and concise, for example:

  • “How beautiful you are! I'm ready to tell you this again and again."
  • “You look wonderful, I can’t take my eyes off you,”
  • “I really like your dress, it suits you very well. You look so charming in it!”
  • “Today was simply wonderful!”
  • “You look like a girl who is very, very beautiful, but doesn’t know it. That's what I like about you."

It’s rare that a girl doesn’t appreciate a man’s sense of humor and will often choose the funniest one among different men. Compliments with irony and humor will make a positive impression on her, and she will definitely remember you.

The most correct compliment to a girl about her beauty is something laconic. If you already know the girl personally, then remember the last meeting.

Successful examples:

  • “When I remember your angelic smile, I also want to smile. What happiness this is!”
  • "I still see your shining gaze"
  • "You are the most beautiful woman I have ever seen"
  • "I admire you!".

Original SMS messages

If you decide to meet and court a beautiful girl, then you really want her to pay attention to you, remember you and make you stand out from the crowd of fans. What behavior should you choose in this case? How to write “hello” to a girl in an original way and start a conversation? In this case, you always want to be original and bright and touch a nerve. To make the girl of your dreams interested in a young man, you can write the following original SMS messages:

  • I like you so much that I simply can’t do it any other way.
  • The evening of our meeting has already passed, but your tenderness is still with me.
  • I write messages to those I care about and care about. I am writing to you because such a beauty means the whole world to me!
  • Even if you don’t answer my messages, I will always think about you!
  • Hello! I like you very much. Tell me what to do and I will do anything for you.

What to write after a long silence?

In this case, several options are possible. It happens that communication with a girl stops after a while. If you want to continue, you should write first. In such a situation, a simple word “hello” and a question “how are you” will not do. Just honestly tell her that you miss her, you are interested in what is happening in her life, and so on. You can also, as an option, praise her latest photographs, ask for good advice on a topic in which she is knowledgeable.

If you ignore each other after a disagreement, again it’s better for a representative of the stronger sex to make the first step, and it doesn’t matter whether you consider yourself guilty or not. Admitting that you are wrong will only help you. In the end, it will be better for you if the relationship returns to its previous course.

How to admit by correspondence that you need a girl?

Not every man can easily confess his emotions and feelings to the lady he really likes and needs. Everyone has a fear of being rejected for various reasons. So what should you write in this case?

Be romantic. Such confessions can melt the heart of even the coldest beauty. If you understand that the girl is attracted to you and reciprocates, then you need to overcome your fear and sincerely write about your feelings. It is much easier to do this through correspondence and it is much easier to decide on such a step than to stand face to face with the object of your adoration.

This method of recognition leaves a path to retreat. If the lady’s reaction is not what you expected, then you can write to her that it was not you who sent this message, but just your friends who decided to make such a bad joke.

How to create and publish posts in communities?

Before we move on to the actual creation and placement of a post, I want to tell you that you will need to post approximately 3-8 ads (depending on your topic: an author’s blog has 2-4 posts, and for example a public with films 5 -8). At the same time, 20% of this number should be occupied by selling posts, and 80% should be allocated to posts of an information and entertainment nature. It is advisable to select pictures for all publications, since, as practice shows, they are the ones that give the greatest response.

If you know that you won't have enough time over the next week to compile and publish material, then it makes sense for you to prepare posts in advance and send them to standby mode. Making a scheduled post is as easy as making a standard one. To do this you need:

  1. Write ad text
  2. Add photos to it by clicking on the “ Attach ” - “ Photo
  3. Set the timer for the date and time the post appears
  4. Send the resulting message using the “ Add to Queue ” button to the list of pending publications

You can create no more than 10 scheduled posts in one day. If this amount is not enough for you, you want to post more news, or you need to create preparations for several days in advance, then it makes sense for you to resort to services for automating work on a social network. For example, such software as brobot or sobot will perfectly cope with the task.

Often there is a need to raise a certain post to the very top of the page and keep it there for a certain time. To pin the material, you can use the pinning function. To do this, you simply click on the text of your ad, open it on top of the current page and select the “ Pin ” button at the very bottom of the window.

In general, this is where the creation and posting of publications in a community or public page ends.

What can you write to a girl on the wall in VK?

At the moment, posts on your VK wall most reflect your interests, tastes and hobbies. Writing to a girl on her page on a social network now means almost the same thing as publicly admitting your sympathy to her. But the main thing here is not to overdo it, because the less we love a woman, the easier it is for her to like us. Not only your posts should be on her wall. How to hook a beauty, what to write to a girl on the VK wall?

You can send a picture with nice words that you liked in the news feed or is similar to your case in life. Another successful way would be to send her an audio recording on her wall, the title of which will reflect your attitude and recognition towards her. But you should cheat a little and watch her playlist in advance so that she likes the song.

You can also send her a funny or touching video, your favorite movie or a movie that she told you about with such interest.

What kind of posts can there be?

In order for you to understand how to make an advertising post on VKontakte attractive and interesting, remember what news evokes the most emotions in you, what news do you pay attention to when scrolling through your feed on a social network? I am sure that most of you, just like me, are more drawn to visual content . If the image interests us, then we involuntarily proceed to read the text accompanying this post. So, if you are really interested in how to promote a VKontakte page yourself, adopt these news design techniques.

Group topic

One of the easiest ways to attract subscribers is to talk about the group and its topics. The success of promoting your “brainchild” in this case will depend on how correctly you select the group to buy advertising. It is very important that the public in which your community will be promoted is filled with your target audience.

Since you already know how to make high-quality and attractive posts in a VKontakte group, make sure that your advertising contains attractive pictures that will interest your target audience. This is what will help you ensure an increase in subscribers.

An honest story about your public

An excessive amount of advertising in the news feeds of VKontakte users leads to the fact that people simply get used to it. This is why SMM marketers have to spend more and more time and effort on inventing new methods of attracting subscribers to their public pages. I advise you to stand out among the crowd of these creatives, try to simply tell your audience about the public, its topic, why you created it, and what useful things they can find in it. It is very important to make an appeal on your own behalf , indicating the maximum number of personal details and small details. Such frankness will certainly find echoes in the hearts of readers and will arouse more trust in them.

Pictures depicting what the target audience dreams of

This technique is often used by all kinds of information businessmen, owners of bookmakers and casinos. Think about what their target audience might dream about? Of course, about how to quickly and easily earn a lot of money, thereby providing yourself with a comfortable life. As a rule, advertising posts of such groups and communities use pictures with images of money, expensive cars, luxurious women, and branded clothing.

Think about what the target audience of your public page wants, and make this desire an advertising “hook”. I want to give you one piece of advice right away: do not use stock images for posts . It will be much better if you take a couple of photos yourself, thereby instilling more trust in your readers.

Pictures that evoke emotions

Choose images to design your posts that would stand out in the general flow of news in the reader’s feed and attract attention. Do not under any circumstances think that the photos should be shocking. Although, I admit, when you see something unexpected, your gaze lingers on the image, and you involuntarily return to the news headline. You don't have to attract readers with nude photos. The most important thing is that the images stand out and evoke certain emotions .

Right now, scroll through the VKontakte news and pay attention to which pictures you lingered your gaze on for a long time. I assure you that the pattern will be discovered very soon.

Appeal to the target audience

If you need to attract the attention of your target audience to your group, then there is one very effective way to do this. Its essence is to begin the text of the message by addressing users of a certain group. For example, if you are promoting a group that is dedicated to cars, then you should start your greeting text with the phrase: “ Attention to all motorists! "

This tactic is incredibly simple, but quite effective. You can use it not only to promote your own groups, but also to sell any goods and services.

Several links in a row

When I first came across an ad with several absolutely identical links, I didn’t immediately understand why it was done. I clicked on each one to make sure they took me to the same page. When the page I already knew opened up in front of me again, I understood the idea of ​​​​advertising.

The fact is that the link block immediately catches the eye, and the fact that it uses links from one page arouses the reader’s curiosity and desire to double-check the direction of the links. Thus, a much larger number of transitions , which leads to increased activity in the group.

Emoticons and symbols

The most ordinary and familiar emoticons can create the necessary accents in a post and direct readers’ attention to certain parts of the message. By using all kinds of exclamation marks, arrows, index fingers, etc., you draw the attention of subscribers to the text that you want them to read.

For example, an emoticon with a picture of a “ gift ” subconsciously gives us the feeling that something pleasant awaits us. If we see “ palm tree ” or “ sun ” in a post, we assume that the message will be about relaxation. Feel free to add emoticons to your ad that match its theme. However, remember that their quantity should be moderate . If you overdo it with symbols, not only will you not attract readers, you will literally repel them.

The most important information in the picture

Most of the VKontakte images have either small or medium-sized inscriptions. However, despite this, the text always matches the image perfectly in color. If you can contain all the information about your news in one picture, then this will definitely attract the attention of a huge number of people who will want to visit your community.

Gifs

Most recently, VKontakte released updates that launch all GIFs automatically . This allowed marketers to take advantage of another way to interact with their audience. We all know that a GIF is a small video translated into a specific format. Since videos are always more effective than texts, the success of GIFs (which, among other things, also plays automatically) in promoting projects simply cannot be overestimated.

Recommendation on behalf of the administrator

A personal recommendation from someone we trust is one of the strongest promotion methods of all time. It is for this reason that SMMers actively use it when composing their advertising posts. In the screenshots you saw examples of what recommendations look like in the context of public news. If you decide to use this particular promotion option, then make sure that your recommendation is as detailed as possible, and most importantly, personal. For example, if you are the admin of a well-promoted public and are thinking about how to make money from a VKontakte group, then you can give the following advice. “I’ve been reading this community for several months now and am absolutely delighted! some incredibly cool ideas here that I had never seen in any other public site before. For example, the last thing I liked was a life hack for creating a projector with your own hands. If you are not yet subscribed to this group, add now!

Don't subscribe if...

One of the most effective promotion templates that plays on the pride of subscribers. The title of the post screams: “ Don’t sign up if you don’t have certain qualities .” This type of handling is quite rough, but at the same time it gives an incredible return. The whole essence of success is that a person always responds to a challenge . For example, if the public gives the following message: “Public for smart people. If in doubt, don’t join.” Anyone who sees this phrase will immediately think, “I’m smart. It is likely that there will be no stupid posts in this public. So it should be interesting here.” Considering that an extremely small number of people position themselves as stupid, such advertising will bring the creator of the public more than one hundred fresh subscribers.

99 out of 100 people will miss this

Appeal to a person’s individuality, emphasis on his individuality and difference from the majority is always a compliment for our EGO . In addition, on a purely psychological level, the negative connotation, when they say that the majority will not do something, is perceived as an incentive to prove that “I’m not like everyone else, I’m different,” “I’ll definitely succeed!”

Chat on your phone

Relatively recently, VKontakte introduced a new feature with the publication of screenshots of correspondence between two users. The idea is this: in a mobile chat, two users exchange barbs, jokes, interesting facts, music, and so on. One of the conversation participants certainly advises the other to join the community from which he draws his inspiration and witty phrases. In this case, the advertisement can look either like a regular link, or like a repost of some post from the wall of the group that is being promoted in this correspondence.

I don’t know how popular this method of promotion is, since I myself no longer react to such posts in my feed. In any case, each method is worth trying and testing . Only through trial and error will you figure out how to make a post on VK interesting and catchy.

Continued in source

The point is that the post provides only part of the information, and the end of it must be read by following a link to another community. Any person will be interested to know how the story ends, and he will go to your public page.

So that you don’t have the problem of how to create a link to a post that will definitely be clicked on, make sure that the content of the ad itself is interesting and intriguing.

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