Today a person has many opportunities to meet other people. The most pleasant and easiest of them are social networks. The most popular platform for dating and communication among young people is VKontakte.
For many years now, it has been the place where many teenagers and young people spend a significant portion of their time. And this means that dating on VKontakte will be no less effective than trying to strike up friendships or romantic relationships in real life.
VKontakte audiencei
Before looking for friends and life partners in this place, you need to find out what kind of people live on this site. According to statistics, there is almost zero activity on this social network among people over 45 years old. The largest number of users are young people under 24 years of age.
The survey showed that people from this category use this social network in 92% of cases. Most of these users are on the site to communicate and consume a variety of entertainment content. That is, people in this place feel light and relaxed. And, what is important, they are ready to communicate with new people.
VKontakte has a huge number of diverse communities of interests. Here you can find both small amateur groups “for your own” and large “publics” of an entertainment nature, news magazines and representative offices of large brands and various projects.
On this social network you can meet absolutely anyone – the variety of tastes among users is simply amazing. You will be able to find both fans of Japanese animation and supporters of political parties. For communication and dating, VKontakte is an ideal platform.
Dating places 2
Of course, users themselves are aware of the number of opportunities to meet and communicate with new people. Almost every community has discussions in which subscribers can simply chat about thematic or free topics.
Communication between community members is highly encouraged by leaders - they constantly hold competitions, surveys, and sweepstakes just to stimulate the activity of group members. But there are also specialized places for dating, both general and thematic.
Where can you meet people on this social network:3
- Entertainment publics. Almost all of them have open comments on posts and have discussions where you can chat with someone and find common interests.
- Thematic publics. For example, dedicated to musical groups or video games. First, you can share your favorite music with subscribers and thus make new friends. And in “gaming” communities there are always opportunities to find people to communicate and play together.
- Publics for dating. They have enormous functionality in order to conveniently search and communicate with people who also want to find friends or a soul mate.
- “City” publics and publics like “Overheard in...”. Communities dedicated to the life of a city, school, university or other social organization. There you can easily find people who are interested in communicating with like-minded people and fellow countrymen.
- Dating through search. VKontakte has an excellent search robot that allows you to very finely filter a huge number of accounts by place of residence, gender, age, education and even popularity. With its help, it will not be difficult to find an ideal interlocutor, friend or life partner.
Of course, everything is not as simple as it might seem at first glance. The fact that people do not communicate face to face, but that there is a monitor between them, somewhat changes the rules of ordinary communication. And meeting someone you like on VKontakte can turn into a real adventure, which sometimes ends not in favor of the person who wants to meet.
Let's start communication
Although the Internet has somewhat blurred the idea of ethics in communication, we will still adhere to the limits of decency. Let's start with the usual greeting and explain the purpose of your address.
A few examples:
- "Hello! I saw your page in my feed and I really liked you. How are you?".
- "Hello! I accidentally came across your page and saw that we have the same musical tastes. How do you like the latest song %artist_name?
- "Good afternoon! I saw your comment in the %group_name group and couldn’t pass by without writing to such a beautiful girl.”
Do you want to learn a lot more interesting things: how to quickly make your VKontakte page attractive to girls and how to learn to write truly “catchy” messages? Then we strongly advise you to read Yegor Sheremetyev’s new free book, “Secrets of Successful Dating on VKontakte.” You will find our impressions from reading and the download link in the detailed review from the editors of ManLife24.
Candidate search4
Most often it is boys and men who meet on this social network. Girls and women are in the role of receiving proposals, occasionally showing their own initiative. This feature is due to the fact that the social network provides an excellent opportunity to show yourself in all your glory and demonstrate your talents.
Many girls who have a good appearance use these opportunities to get a lot of attention. You can get to know them and communicate, moreover, they will even be happy with such attention and compliments. But things won’t go any further - they simply don’t want a relationship and don’t let anyone get close to them.
Also in the vastness of VK you can find a massive number of fake accounts. Their owners steal other people's photos and pass them off as their own. For what? To get some benefit. These could be simple scammers who will pretend to be a pretty resident of the outback, who suddenly, after a couple of days of communication, runs out of Internet and would not mind continuing the communication if someone paid her for it.
These may also be those who experience a serious lack of attention to their person. Such people do everything to turn the views of others on themselves - they write provocative posts, participate in discussions, insult other people, or post provocative photographs (often erotic content) in order to thus find themselves in the center of discussion. Such people should also be avoided; fortunately, it is quite easy to recognize them.
Whom should we look for then? Pages of people that look quite normal and do not contain any provocative materials. Anyone who wants to get to know each other will definitely keep the page and personal messages open for everyone who wants to contact him. He will have open comments on posts and photographs so that anyone can express their opinion about them.
His social status will indicate that this person is either actively searching or does not have a relationship at the moment. All other points will indicate that he or she is unlikely to let a stranger near him or her. If a person wants to find a boyfriend or girlfriend in order to spend time not only online, but also in real life, then one should avoid pages designed without using any real data (addresses, photographs, names).
If a person puts characters from films, games, or cartoons on his avatar, and his address definitely does not indicate a Russian city, then he is unlikely to want to transfer communication outside the social network.
How to have a date with continuation4
Not every girl will agree to immediately come to your home or invite you to her place. Some people will still have to go on a date. But so that the time spent there is not wasted, it is necessary to have a date at the highest level, so as not to leave the girl a chance to think. You can choose any place for a date, but the main thing is that it is something not very active, otherwise the girl simply won’t have the strength to continue the evening, so you shouldn’t invite her to go hiking in the mountains, to a climbing wall, and so on.
The atmosphere should be as relaxed as possible; the ideal option would be a cozy restaurant where you can have a pleasant conversation, relax and drink a little alcohol. The key word is a little, since it’s unlikely that you would want to just put her to bed after the date. Be sure to compliment her and pay attention to the little things. Your behavior should be appropriate, but a little unpredictable.
Keep the intrigue, this behavior is very attractive to girls. Play with it and be confident in yourself, since it is in your interests that everything goes well. In order to move to the next step, allow yourself to start touching her, very little at first, then the touches can be more decisive, then you can move on to a kiss. If a girl agrees to a kiss and acts relaxed around you, then there is a good chance that your evening will end exactly the way you wanted.
Preparing for dating5
Before you write to a person and offer him an acquaintance, you need to make sure that your own page will not repel him. Yes, you shouldn’t forget about your profile and you need to design it properly. The most important rule is naturalness. Everything needs a golden mean.
You shouldn’t upload dozens and hundreds of real photos into open albums, but it will be impossible to do without them completely. You shouldn’t fill out all possible fields with personal data in detail, but you shouldn’t leave most of them empty either. There is no need to litter your wall with reposts, but keeping it empty is also ugly.
What should the page look like so as not to arouse suspicion or alienate you? Firstly, there must be activity on it. Most people with real accounts do not have this problem - their friends include good friends, colleagues, relatives and other close people.
Their photos are liked, their posts are viewed and commented on. If a person does not have any friends, all his photos will be uploaded in one day, and among the likes there will be incomprehensible personalities with empty profiles, then this page will never attract the attention it deserves.
Secondly, there should be nothing provocative, negative or judgmental among the page materials. Everything should indicate that its owner is adequate and serious about his profile and communication. There should not be any posts with dubious content that could alienate the user or harm his interests.
For example, you can often notice how young people speak out about certain social groups or phenomena in a negative way. What to do if the person you like has a relationship with objects of insult and humiliation? But no way. It will be lost to the page owner forever.
Thirdly, the psychological attitude is important. Even if the page looks perfect, there is lively and natural activity on it, the photographs are taken with high quality, in general, everything is “brand new”, then failure can still await you when trying to meet someone. You shouldn’t be afraid of this, because all people may have their own reasons for not responding to messages and not responding to outside activity.
Maybe the girl the guy wants to meet is already in a relationship. Maybe due to personal problems she simply does not want to communicate with strangers. Maybe it’s just difficult for her to say no because of her shyness and that’s why she ignores the messages. Anything is possible. The main thing is not to give up, not to be intrusive and to be able to let go of those who do not want to communicate.
Beauty is a universal weapon
The leader in the number of subscribers (two and a half million) in our entire review is held by the public School of Beauty. And when you look there, it becomes clear where he has so many fans: everything is very competent and structured, and the advice does not smack of malakhovism and categoricalness. The recommendations are divided into “lessons” on topics, for example, how to determine your color type or basic rules for eyelash care. In addition to thematic discussions, there are also a couple of “chatter” topics. By the way, one of the most popular is about the stupidest gifts for March 8th.
A set of old tea cups, some with chips, but in beautiful packaging from an expensive set. Old polishes, lipsticks, etc., dried out. This is all from my ex-mother-in-law. But the most important thing is the spouse. He gave me an old office book with pasted-in recipes and tips from magazines like Rabotnitsa, etc. With the words, they say, study, wife, cook something delicious for your husband, otherwise everything is on Google, on Google...
The public page Beauty Secrets has half a million subscribers. Here you can get some good manicure ideas and ways to strengthen your hair. We also liked the video makeup tutorials here. Well, how can we do without inspiring quotes? On any other day we would not quote them, but on March 8 we can make an exception: “We have all become powerless before female beauty. She is stronger than gods, people, fire and steel.”
Vybirai.ru congratulates all readers on International Women's Day and wishes them spring mood all year round!
Text: Elena Mazeeva
