Imagine a situation where you are chatting on VKontakte with a wonderful girl.
You have common interests, mutual attraction, but suddenly the conversation freezes.
You feel that something has gone wrong, her attitude towards you has changed and the thought arises in your head: “If a girl takes a long time to respond to messages in contact, does that mean she doesn’t like me anymore? Has she got another boyfriend? What to do next, send another message? What can I do to get her to call me back immediately?”
If you are familiar with a similar situation, then I will immediately warn you - you are not alone.
Almost every guy has encountered icy silence against the backdrop of complete well-being.
But before we give any specific advice, let's start with your reaction to the situation when your girlfriend does not respond to VKontakte messages.
Why is it so important to maintain a positive attitude and not dwell on unnecessary issues?
The point is that you shouldn't sit and wait for a girl to respond to your messages.
It's not cool or attractive.
As a man, you should focus on achieving your goals and improving your life, rather than sitting and nervously waiting for a response from a capricious woman.
As soon as you start to feel overwhelmed with negative emotions, immediately do something useful:
— focus on your studies, career, work, social life;
— spend time with friends and family;
- take up your hobbies and passions;
- go for a run or to the gym.
Thanks to this, you will not have time for negative thoughts and self-flagellation if a girl takes a long time to respond to messages on VK.
Believe me, women intuitively feel the state of guys even through correspondence.
If you spent the whole evening waiting, suffering, nervousness, she will notice your dependence and despair, and this only pushes her away.
Who needs sufferers?
If a girl notices that you are desperate for her attention, she will lose attraction to you and will no longer want to communicate.
Universal advice for all guys:
“After sending a message to a girl, go on with your normal day and forget that you wrote anything to her at all.”
In the end, if a girl doesn’t respond on VK, it doesn’t mean she’s interested in you.
There are situations when a girl has the opportunity to read your message, but does not have the opportunity to respond to it.
She may be busy with something, not in the mood, her phone is dead or there is no access to the Internet.
There is no need to immediately panic and invent
I will give several specific examples from life that explain why a girl does not respond to VK messages.
Reason #1. She was busy
Perhaps you wrote to her at the time she:
— Hanging out with friends.
- Was at work.
- In gym.
- At lectures.
If a lot of interesting things are happening in a girl’s life, it’s difficult for her to instantly respond to all your messages.
You may not be one of her top priorities, at least not right now.
Does this mean she doesn't have romantic feelings for you?
Not really.
A girl may think: “I’ll answer later,” but then she forgets.
Surely the same thing happened to you in relation to your friends.
If a girl has a really interesting, eventful life, then why does she need a boring guy who spends all day on a social network?
Let her know that you also have something to do besides texting.
How to communicate with girls on the phone? - Recommendations
Now we will talk about how to properly talk to a girl on the phone when you have taken her number.
The first thing that is important to mention is excitement. If you have little practice talking to girls on the phone, then you will 100% be worried, this is normal. In order for this pre-call jitters to go away, you need to practice and call the fair sex as often as possible. But if your anxiety is very strong, then I recommend that before calling a girl, call your friend and “talk.” Just chat with him about everything and nothing. This practice will give you the opportunity to enter the desired talkative state.
What should you do when communicating with a girl?
The first rule is when the girl answers the call, be sure to ask if it’s convenient to talk now. If she is uncomfortable now, then find out when she will be free.
If the girl can speak, then you start a dialogue. There are no “magic” phrases for communication. In a conversation, the main thing is not what you say, but how you say it. Ideally, your state should be relaxed and positive. Imagine that you are talking with your friends. You communicate with him relaxed and without tension. So behave the same way with a girl.
The second rule is to be adequate. For a girl, a very important criterion is the adequacy of the guy. If you behave strangely in a conversation, the lady will be wary and she will no longer agree to a date. Just conduct the conversation adequately and you will be successful.
After a short conversation, invite her to meet. But do not do this from a position from below (Would you agree to take a walk with me? - we don’t do that). We invite you exclusively from the position of a strong person (I want to meet you on such and such a day). Girls feel the position from below immediately and it repels them.
Remember, you don't ask, you offer!
Conclusion:
1)Excitement before the call is normal;
2) The more often you call beautiful girls, the better you will do, and the less nervous you will be;
3) It is not what you say that matters, but how you say it (emotions are transmitted);
4) Be adequate;
5)Behave from a position on top;
Reason #2. Your messages are boring and monotonous
- Hello.
- How was your day?
- What are you doing?
- How are you?
Are you really that boring?
The fact is that if your message is not catchy from the first phrase, the girl will not rush to answer.
Other forms of boring messages are logical, long and detailed.
They take a lot of time to read, comprehend and formulate an answer.
Girls are much more willing to respond to short, specific, light-hearted and fun messages that evoke curiosity and emotion - as opposed to logic and predictability.
For example, instead of sending the usual “how are you”, you can start your message with something like:
“You won't believe what happened to me today...” She will be curious to know what happened to you.
Or instead of a simple “hello” you can send:
“Today I met a sexy girl in a short green dress, but she was in such a hurry that she didn’t even notice me.”
You flirt with her, give her a compliment and set a playful tone.
The girl will definitely respond to such a message.
This will make her curious.
Sometimes a girl doesn’t answer on VKontakte only because she has nothing to answer.
Not all messages need to be answered.
Sometimes you just state your point of view.
You convey specific information that does not depend in any way on her answer.
Reason #4. She texts other guys
When a girl is super attractive and single, she will get a ton of attention from men.
So there is a high chance that she will be messaging multiple guys at the same time.
Your message may automatically end up at the very bottom, so wait your turn.
That being said, you should never take it personally and think that she underestimates you.
If you somehow show your jealousy and begin to demand full attention, then she will simply add you to the black list and forget you like a bad dream.
If you show her your weakness and dependence, she will feel power. You will no longer control the development of your relationship.
In addition, the woman will lose attraction to you.
Jealousy is a sign of weakness and lack of self-confidence.
You yourself put the stigma on yourself “I’m worse than other guys who write to you.”
She will stop trusting you and considering you as a potential partner.
Sooner or later she will stop responding to your messages.
Reason #5. She's losing interest in you
If a girl begins to gradually move away, is in no hurry to answer, and is not interested in your affairs, it means that she is losing attraction to you.
But this shouldn't bother you in any way.
There are a lot of cool girls on VKontakte who are ready to go on a date with you.
The main reason for loss of interest is an overabundance of messages.
Correspondence with a woman should be in such a mode that she wants to continue.
If you overwhelm her with your messages, she will become stuffy, lose romantic interest and stop responding.
Don't get carried away with unnecessary texts just because a girl is paying attention to you.
You are not her pen pal!
Use text messages only as a means to meet a girl in person.
Unreasonable text messages make you seem too available.
Remember that attraction grows with distance.
You have to give the girl the opportunity to miss you.
If you start bombarding her with meaningless texts, she will quickly get tired and will no longer rush to answer.
Again, you shouldn’t pay too much attention to a girl until she has invested enough money (time, effort, attention) in you.
So write to the girl less often, give her freedom, and her attraction to you will increase.
Girls are more willing to respond to rare messages that contain specific information.
Other Formatting Options
You can use other fonts by formatting the text on a special resource, such as the 4txt.ru website or in a text editor, and then pasting it into Telegram. Formatting tools on third-party resources allow you to use strikethrough, underline, mirror, invert and other interesting writing styles.
The developers of "Telegram" also presented a service for formatting and publishing records - "Telegraph". The tool allows you to post online with additional attachments (photos, videos, etc.). The user has the opportunity to take advantage of many functions, for example:
- highlighting text in bold, italics;
- numbered, bulleted lists;
- adding a photo;
- broadcasting YouTube videos, etc.
Entries created using this service are available on Telegram through the “Instant View” function (“Read more”). You won't have to leave the app to view the post. To manage records, a special bot @telegraph has been created, with which authorization in “Telegraph” from the “Telegram” profile and other useful functions are available to ensure maximum ease of use of editing and control over content.
Try not to overdo experimentation with your messages. If you communicate according to the principle “I write as I want,” this may alienate your interlocutors or subscribers. Use the writing style change feature only when it is truly appropriate.
Reason #7. She's testing you.
Almost every woman wants to date a confident guy.
How does a woman test a man's confidence? Asks him about it?
Of course not!
If a sexy girl asks any guy if he is confident in himself, she will probably hear “yes.”
How can she know that you are truly confident and not like the other guys who message her?
She's testing you.
How? Whether intentionally or subconsciously, she takes longer to respond to your messages.
A woman who has been texting you very often suddenly pauses, just to see if you'll lose your cool.
She wants to make sure that the guy she's dating is confident and strong (both physically and emotionally).
Therefore, when a girl does not respond to your message, it is better to remain calm.
If you break down, show anger and disappointment, insult, start controlling, asking why she didn’t answer for so long, catching her in a lie - you will immediately fail the test of emotional maturity.
So what to do? Should I write to her if she doesn't answer or should I wait?
The short answer is no! You need to be patient and wait for her answer.
As practice shows, women should not write double text messages.
If a girl doesn't have time to respond, give her time before sending another message.
What if she doesn't answer at all?
This could mean two things:
1) she is still interested in you, but for some reason she could not answer;
2) she is not interested or has lost interest.
So when should you write to her and how can you understand whether she is interested in continuing communication or not?
Wait 24 to 72 hours (3 days). Then send her another message.
If she answers, good! Perhaps she is still interested in you.
If she doesn't respond at all, it clearly shows that she is not interested in you.
Forget about her and start meeting new amazing women. Why waste time on a girl who is clearly not interested in you?
Are you really that desperate?
I hope not!
Chasing girls who aren't interested in you is a terrible idea.
First of all, chances are good that you will never get the girl you are pursuing.
It will be a waste of your energy, emotions and time.
Secondly, it will reduce your self-esteem and self-confidence.
It's better to spend this time, energy and emotions looking for women who like to communicate with you.
VKontakte is an unlimited choice of girls for every taste, and among them there is probably one that suits you perfectly.
This will give you confidence and increase your self-esteem.
Ideal Places in Your Profile to Insert Bold Type
On Instagram, you can design different sections in an unusual font. You can often see bold font in a photo post. It can also be found in the profile header or in the “About Me” section. In these places you can use unusual text writing, emoticons, and interesting symbols. This will make your profile unique, which means attracting the attention of new subscribers to it.
Instagram features do not allow you to change font settings when writing posts or creating a profile. This can be done using thematic applications from Google Play or the App Store, a Telegram bot, as well as through online services.
The disadvantage of such solutions is the ability to highlight only text typed in Latin in bold. Almost none of these methods work with Cyrillic.
